Finding the Middle (Path)

Black and blue or white and gold?

It’s safe to say that “the dress” ruined (almost) as many relationships as Monopoly. It was, in a word, infuriating. How could anyone think it was white and gold? (I still can’t see it.)

In life, a lot of things might seem like “the dress.” I’m fair and my parents are lame and unfair; I’m good and my ex is evil. Why am I sad while everyone else is happy?

Our world has conditioned us to look for winners and losers, right and wrong. We love opposites.

But, the truth is that things just don’t really work like that. Most facts are not mutually exclusive. In many cases, two separate ideas can both be right.

The Middle Path

An author once told me, “the best bad guys have really good qualities.” They’re smart or cunning, charming or funny. Look at the Joker.

When we recognize that good and bad can be found in everything, we improve our understanding of the world and others. It makes us more flexible and accepting of change and adverse life events.

It turns out that everyone isn’t out to get you. There’s just another side to it that you missed.

But, when we’re so convinced that “the dress” is black and blue, it can be difficult to see the side of white and gold, to give those people validation.

Validation is a HUGE part of the Middle Path. It’s just as important for your parents to recognize why you want to go to that unsupervised rager as it is for you to understand why it’s “never happening.”

On the inverse, the Middle Path helps us to understand ourselves as well. We may feel altogether sad, but there’s probably something to be happy about. (Also, other people are sad too, even if their glamorous social media pics suggest otherwise.)

If DBT were a tool kit, the Middle Path would be your level.

The Middle Path at Blueprint Mental Health

Blueprint Mental Health specializes in adolescent DBT. We treat teens and young adults experiencing a variety of mental health issues, including depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder, and borderline personality disorder. Further, we believe in the power of DBT when used in everyday life. This summer, we are proud to offer weekly DBT training sessions for teens and for parents.

For more information or to sign up, call (908) 256-6965 or e-mail info@blueprintmentalhealth.com.

CONTACT & MORE INFORMATION

Trusted Mental Health Counseling Across Central New Jersey

Blueprint Mental Health has earned a reputation as one of the most sought-after mental health practices in New Jersey. We provide the highest quality clinical care in a way that feels welcoming, personal, and anything but clinical. Our therapists offer individual and group counseling for children, teens, young adults, adulting adults, parents, couples, and families.

We offer both in-person sessions at our Somerville location and virtual therapy appointments statewide. For those seeking in-person care, we’re located within a 30-minute drive of many towns across Central and Northern New Jersey, including Chatham, Madison, Morristown, Princeton, Edison, Highland Park, North Brunswick, New Brunswick, Piscataway, South Plainfield, Clark, Cranford, Scotch Plains, Summit, Springfield, and more.

Comprehensive Therapy Services in Somerset County

We're proud to support clients from Bridgewater, Hillsborough, Bound Brook, Branchburg, Manville, Raritan, Somerset, Bedminster, Bernardsville, Far Hills, Peapack, and Martinsville. Our Somerset County location serves as a central hub for families and individuals seeking high-quality mental health support.

Individual and Family Counseling in Union County

Our in-person services are convenient for residents of Scotch Plains, Westfield, Summit, Springfield, Cranford, Clark, Garwood, Fanwood, New Providence, Mountainside, Rahway, Roselle Park, and Plainfield. We work with children, teens, and adults throughout Union County to address anxiety, depression, relationship concerns, and more.

Therapy and Coaching Services in Middlesex County

We frequently work with individuals and families from Edison, New Brunswick, North Brunswick, Highland Park, Metuchen, Milltown, Piscataway, Dunellen, South Plainfield, Kendall Park, and Middlesex. Our clinicians provide accessible care for both short-term challenges and long-term growth.

Supportive Mental Health Care in Hunterdon County

Many of our clients travel from Clinton, Flemington, Readington Township, Lebanon, High Bridge, and Whitehouse Station for in-person support. We also offer virtual sessions for added flexibility throughout Hunterdon County and beyond.

Compassionate Therapy for Children, Teens, Adults, and Families

Whether you're struggling with anxiety, depression, OCD, trauma, parenting challenges, or family conflict, Blueprint Mental Health offers compassionate and effective care tailored to your needs. Our young but experienced team of clinicians takes a proactive, relational approach that resonates with today’s children, teens, and adults.

We provide services including Individual Therapy, Group Therapy, Family Therapy, Parent Coaching, Couples Therapy, Trauma Treatment, OCD Therapy, Drop-In Consults, and more.

If you want to understand what sets us apart, explore Our Approach.

Phone: 908-256-6965
Email: clientrelations@blueprintmentalhealth.com

Blueprint Mental Health
73 West End Ave,
Somerville, NJ 08876 [Map]